Four Short Bites

Posted in Uncategorized on February 24, 2018 by Ren-Lay

Aging is like a perpetual game of ‘choose your symptoms.’  No longer do we have the luxury of living symtom free.

Like Scarlet O’Hara, I dismiss disappointment with ‘tomorrow is another day.’

Only in loving another can you know them.  Sex, the early path to love, is mistaken in the belief that knowing only manifests itself in orgasm.

I like nothing better than to settle into something that envelops me, creating the feeling that I am engaged and involved and encouraged to think.




Posted in Uncategorized on February 18, 2018 by Ren-Lay

These words by Gertrude Stein, first noticed in the early 80’s while reading Patricia Meyerwitz’ introduction to Stein’s How to Write, have been my polestar for 37 years.

“Clarity is of no importance because nobody listens and nobody knows what you mean no matter what you mean, nor how clearly you mean what you mean.  But if you have vitality enough of knowing enough of what you mean, sometime and sometimes a great many will have to realize that you know what you mean and so they will agree that you mean what you know, what you know you mean, which is as near as anybody can come to understanding anyone.”

I have returned again and again to this existential wisdom as I keep trying to understand and give form and language to what it is to be human.


Posted in Uncategorized on February 7, 2018 by Ren-Lay

Used to be our world cried out at us to fix this, mend that, replace another thing.  Now we withstand a constant barrage of devices shouting at us to upgrade, refresh, respond, update.  We have moved from an awareness of the material, visible, touchable world, to one of virtual, intangible systems demanding our attention at all times.  Thinking and planning and sorting out the choices seems now to be a luxury of time.  There is always a technology wanting our attention just to do the necessary basics.


Posted in Uncategorized on January 21, 2018 by Ren-Lay

Attempts to “normalize” this presidency cause irreparable harm. The whole country is being “gas-lighted.”

What happens when so much of what comes to us from the world is stupid, untrue and not only bad, but deeply evil?  We begin to feel as though we are crazy.  Our sense of truth is worn away and the ensuing stress does some damage.  Turning off the news from time to time is the only way I have found to cope.


Posted in Uncategorized on January 18, 2018 by Ren-Lay

Today I spent about six hours trying to get my landlord’s new fancy computerized door system to work. No fewer than 6 people have tried to help me set this thing up on an Android tablet a friend gave me about a year ago. I had never used it. Now, at the front door to the apartment building, instead of a buzzer, there is a video/audio screen that features one of those fancy touch/tap displays with way too many choices and only operates with some sort of “device” that controls one’s capacity to answer that door.


Stress and frustration have been gnawing on me since it was installed a week ago. We are definitely in a world where complications have replaced the simplest of life tasks, a pushy culture that refuses to let us move at our own rate, in our own way, imposing on us the latest technological confusion.


Posted in Uncategorized on January 17, 2018 by Ren-Lay

The world seems to be increasingly designed to wind us up, keeping us in a constant state of tension and outrage.